Its You All the way down!!!!

I recently picked up a book that my teenager was reading. It was an attempt to understand what type of content he likes (more as post facto after I gifted him the book). The book was called “Turtles All the Way Down”. Now people who follow books would remember that its been on the best sellers’ chart for some time now.

I found the book initially depressing; even silly. But then I reminded myself about the target audience. Eventually I came to appreciate the complex world of a young teenager. The difficulty of deciding good vs. not so good. (I realized there is rarely a bad in their world); and how their priorities can change. The realization at the end of the book is one of self-analysis and when the self-analysis ends; and self-cherish begins. Because while we do invest time in identifying our strengths, weaknesses, areas of improvements when and how do we cherish ourselves?

Like are you in love with yourself? Does solitude give you solace? Are you looking forward to splurging (Spending looks like an underestimation) on that haircut you have in mind since last year? When was the last time you planned something for your appeasement?

One of the quotes in the book was “I is the hardest word to define.”

And while each of work to make this hard word easy, one has to do it alone, and with love. Specially all my girlfriends out there, we often put us behind everything and everyone else. But believe me when I say this, you need as much care and as much love and as must rest as anyone else. You need that good place where you can tell yourself about how special you are.

And remember, kids can be demanding people. And they do get smart enough to take advantage of that melting point that we as parents have. Sometimes, don’t give in, don’t fade away your identify and your person to create a person that does not care for others. It’s important to give our children a lesson in personal space and time. I see a lot of parents making that mistake; wherein a household is ONLY about kids, with no signs of adults around. I don’t say that is bad; but I do think it is detrimental for any child to grow up believing that they “are” the Universe. Don’t do that to your kids. Coz when they bubble pops, it will be lot of heartache and disillusionment.

But coming back to my primary point, girls go out there. Get that haircut, that spa, go on that shopping spree, plan a girl’s day out, have some fun! Men too! Do that thing you like doing… (without breaking home rules of course ? )

Love thyself as you Love your Neighbor!